The holiday season can be a painful time after losing someone you love and memories are often more intense this time of year. The continual reminders that your loved one is not here to celebrate as before can create feelings of sadness and longing, even if you’ve come a long way on the grieving journey.
It is important to know that no matter how much it hurts right now, you will get through the holidays and will be stronger than before. The future will bring a day when your memories are welcomed rather than painful.
Some tried and true tips to survive the holidays include the following suggestions.
Asking for help
Grieving often makes the holidays more stressful then they usually are. Ask for what you need and be willing to say no to plans that will not work for you.
Surrounding yourself with support
Keeping in touch with friends or family members can bring comfort this holiday season. Support groups can be helpful as well. And as always, we remain available at RoseRock.
Helping someone else in need can be a welcome distraction to your own pain. You can even volunteer for RoseRock!
Keeping traditions may bring about positive feelings as you overcome each day filled with memories and the grief that comes with it. While this option will undoubtedly be painful, as your loved ones missing presence becomes more noticeable, remember to allow yourself to feel the feelings as they happen.
Changing things up
Just because the way you celebrated before was the right way then, does not meant it is the right way now. Even traditions that have been practiced for years can be customized to fit your needs this year. One new tradition might be to invite your loved one to the celebration by sharing memories or even hanging a stocking in their memory for others to place notes about their thoughts or feelings.
Avoiding it altogether
You may not be ready to face all of the parties, the shopping, and the entertaining this season brings and that’s ok. If celebrating is too much to bear, some people find that doing something out of the ordinary such as seeing a movie or taking a road trip seems to help.
Whatever you choose to do, be patient. As time passes you will find ways to live with your loss.